If you have stumbled across my article, 6 reasons why your child may not want to go to school then chances are you are going through a tough time trying to find an answer as to what is causing your happy go lucky child to feel so sad about the classroom. It could be the simplest thing that requires the smallest change to help your child enjoy those memorable years of school.
I am just a regular Mum with a six-year-old Daughter. Olivia struggled with a ton of emotions as soon as she started school and for years I just could not figure out why she was so happy in a variety of other different surroundings. Naturally, I just had to get to the bottom of why my daughter was going through such a tough time. After many appointments with professionals, I finally had an answer. Olivia’s sensory obstacles are for another blog post, however, her condition is extremely common and I am hoping some of my Daughters personal reasons for this post 6 reasons why your child may not want to go to school may resonate with what other parents are going through.
There are so many of us in the same position. I have experienced first hand that feeling of leaving your child in tears at the school gate and spending the next six hours watching the clock. Only to be greeted by an angry child holding so many pent up emotions.
Sound familiar? Then read on to discover 6 reasons why your child may not want to go to school
How wonderful the past four years have been together, every day at home. It is now time for your child to go his/her own way and spend the morning solo. Have some compassion. Even though you may be excited about your child starting school, your child may feel overwhelmed with both excitement and fear.
TIP: Let your child know that you will be back. These words of reassurance are so important.
Do you remember walking into the playground as a parent and not knowing anybody? Think about the many choices your child has to make as soon as he steps onto school grounds. Who to play with, where to stand, what does the day ahead hold. Then on top of those choices come the sensory aspect of the playground. Children wanting to play, shouting, screaming, voices and instructions.
TIP: Arrive at school as late as possible, just before the morning bell. This way you are cutting out a sensory overload at the beginning of a school day.
A few years ago I vowed never to call my Daughter shy. I did not realise how damaging that word could be to a child. If your child is apprehensive about making new friends, then forcing them to play with someone more outgoing than them could cause serious confidence issues. It works for some kids but not for others. Educate yourself on the types of personalities that your child is mixing with during his school day.
TIP: Ask your child to choose a friend for a playdate and have it held in his own surroundings.
My friend once told me that her son was so angry every morning before school because he found he’s socks so uncomfortable. I thought this was comical at the time but quickly realised that certain materials can cause discomfort to one’s skin. I am like it with denim for instance. Is there a piece of clothing that is irritating your child?
This next point was a biggie for us when our Daughter first started in year 1. She was so used to being in a relaxed environment in reception class and year 1 was a big change. For a start, children were now made to sit at a desk and playtimes were limited. My Daughter, being the youngest in her class struggled with such a big change. My seven year old hears every noise possible, even the ticking of a clock! Talk with your child about the noises they can expect to hear in a busy environment. This will reassure them that noise in a classroom is normal.
Some children cope better when they can see where the noise is coming from. Ask for your child to be seated with fellow pupils in front of him. That way everyone is visible, causing less concern.
Some children have a genuine fear of school. It could be a teacher or another pupil. It could be a reaction or meltdown that they have witnessed upon drop off one morning. Fear stays with children for a very long time so remember to have hat conversation about how different personalities react.
Laminate a set of emoji faces and ask your child to describe her day at school using a symbolic face. Elaborate by asking why he/she feels happy or sad. Emoji faces are a great way of getting your kid to talk about feelings.