Technically nursery mums but the class is part of a school so i guess that counts.
Having a gossip over coffee i pleaded with my long term friends not to let me turn into a school gate Mum. “They hate their husbands” i said. “ They might judge me” or “ They probably wear boring clothes”. Wow i said some rubbish things. Where the hell did i get the interpretation of the school mum gang?
Well its gotta be said that my school Mum gang are all lovely, all of them, every single one. And sometimes i even hang out for a natter by the school gates…. i know, what a hypocrite right?!.
I was new to our village and knew NOBODY! My friends were a good hour away and we no longer had dance classes or socials to attend on a regular basis. Life would now be all about starting school.
It took a while before i got to know everyone because low and behold it was my Daughter who cried every morning upon drop off. I cried too and had to make a beeline for my car whilst the tears were rolling down my cheeks under my shades.
Thank the lord for Olivia’s teacher and her reassuring hugs (not for me of course) . If Carlsberg made teachers my Hubby always says.
I broke the ice by inviting Olivia’s class and their mums over for a little Halloween get together. It was nice to meet everyone and realise that we all had loads in common, we were all Mums going through the same process of the schooling stage. Working around our babies and meeting a new group of friends. During the month of November my Mum was diagnosed with cancer and during this time the support from my new friends who were barely strangers was unreal. I never really spoke about it as the diagnosis and taking care of my Mum when she was ill was just too painful. but they just knew how to handle the situation. a gentle hug, messages of reassurance and offers of help with Olivia. A quick coffee to take my mind off of things after the school run and gifts at Christmas. Like i said, they just knew.
This year has been a whirlwind of play dates, coffee dates, parties and school meetings, i even went to a PTA meeting once. I am a great provider but a terrible organiser so i think i shall just sit at the side line there. I am really pleased with all the friends Olivia has made and her classmates are just a bundle of cuteness.
Being a school Mum isn’t at all bad. I am actually quite missing my new friends over the Easter break!
What is your experience of the school gate Mums? Are you lucky enough to get along?