It is so exciting becoming a mum for the first time although very daunting.
Nobody can prepare you for what’s coming although I can offer advice to make life a little easier!
Keep a diary of all your appointments, Doctors, Midwife, Physio. I lost my brain when I became pregnant and still do not have it back! On your first ever visit to the Midwife she will give you a big folder full of notes that you must keep with you throughout your pregnancy and take to all your appointments. I wrote all my families contact details in advance and clipped inside to be made available in case of an emergency. I had my Sister as well as my hubby for a birthing partner so I noted her contact details inside there too. And as she was travelling a distance I made up an envelope with the hospital address, details and a telephone number for the labour ward. I even sent her a spare key to my house!
Collect wipes, Nappies, Muslim squares on a weekly basis when you are doing the food shop. I do not advise buying too many nappies pre-birth as you may get a bigger/smaller baby than you bargained for. Or like me our little Olivia had a very sensitive bottom and Pampers did not agree with her. Huggies leaked! So we settled for some organic nappies supplied by Boots.
Go to antenatal classes! You do learn things and it is a good opportunity to meet new friends. Also find out from your local children’s centre or Midwife what courses and groups are available for Mums to be. I did them all – Breastfeeding, parenting, water birth even!
I if you are unsure about anything or unwell then go to your doctor. Never feel silly or like you are being a nuisance. Your baby is the most important little being to you from now on.
Throw a baby shower and let family and friends celebrate your pregnancy with you. Presents are great and bibs, bottles, books and what not all contribute to the many things you need. Epic opportunity to eat cake also! At Olivia’s baby shower everybody gave a book from their childhood and wrote a note inside the front cover. She now has a beautiful collection of books that we can keep and pass down.
When it comes to buying pregnancy clothes why spend a fortune on garments that will be so short lived? I had a small budget for one occasion plain dress, a warm shawl I could wrap around me and a pair of really comfy maternity trousers. Everything else I just bought in a bigger size from Primark.
Pack early and keep packing. I wanted my partner to be with me throughout my labour and hospital stay so I made sure I packed everything the three of us would need. By time I was admitted to hospital I was so prepared that the only time he had to pop out was to make phone calls!!
Here’s what I packed in MY bag
Hospital notes!!! Big pants, several pairs. Sanitary pads. Not just a few a whole pack. 2 baggy loose cotton nighties and 1 pair of pyjamas for after baby. Dressing gown and slippers. Instead of a pair of chunky slippers I just took a pair of the thin slipper socks. You can buy them from Tesco’s, Primark or anywhere else that sells clothing. And don’t forget a change of comfortable clothes to travel home in! Breast pads and maternity bra. And a towel. Toiletries should include deodorant, toothbrush and toothpaste. A low PH body wash. When your baby arrives you want him to recognize your natural scent. Leave the perfume at home! Lip balm…. The air con along with panting will give you dry lips. I kept mine in my dressing gown pocket. And admittedly I did take a tinted one just for a tiny bit of glamour! Really important to keep your energy up so instead of coke and chocolate I packed malt loaf and lucozade. My cousin also advised lollipops!
Also in my hospital bag I packed 1 new-born vest, 1 new-born babygow with long-sleeved and feet. A New-born hat and scratch mitts. Get used to this – The moment that baby arrives NOTHING is yours any longer!! I am going to include what I packed in the baby’s bag but the reason I suggest having spare outfits in your bag also is to save time searching for the baby’s separate belongings.
Delicious Daddies Bag
My ipad and phone charger!! (Everything of mine that I couldn’t fit into my own)
Tracksuit bottoms and T-shirt. Toiletries, clean pants! And a list of telephone numbers and people to call/text when baby arrives! Oh and snacks for him.
3 vests, 3 baby grows. Selection of sizes! Hat, scratch mit. Nappies. Cotton pads for cleaning her! Wipes are not advised on a new-born’s skin and most hospitals will provide cotton wool but I preferred the nice big cotton pads. They look exactly the same as the eye makeup remover pads us mums use! I also took a little container to put cool boiled water in. A few bibs for feeding and a dummy if you decide to use one. Even if you are adamant that your child is not going to have a dummy you should think about taking one anyway! I packed 2 soft clean towels and 2 soft clean blankets to wrap her in.
Oh and you will need a car seat to bring baby home!
Good Luck Mummy’s